Sam Nitz knew he was gay in 6th grade, and even though he only dated and hooked up with men during his time at University of Wisconsin-Madison, he waited until his senior year to come out publicly.“I was involved in Boy Scouts at the national level, and back then in Boy Scouts you couldn’t be gay,” he explains. C., had been an Eagle Scout and a Section Chief in the Order of the Arrow, but felt that he lost election to be National Chief of the Order of the Arrow (the top youth position in the Boy Scouts) due to a whisper campaign about his sexuality.For example, while about 45 percent of students said they'd never hooked up with anyone, only 3.7 percent believed that the "typical student" had never hooked up.Likewise, only 37 percent of people reported having two or more hookups, but 90 percent of students believed that at least two hookups were "typical" for their peers."And the more likely that you're going to engage in it."Hooking up Holman and her colleagues queried 274 college students on how they defined the term "hookup" and how often they themselves hooked up.The term can include anything from making out to sexual intercourse, Holman said, but the most common meaning among the students she studied was nonrelationship sex that was spontaneous and alcohol-driven.Experimenting is an important part of a lot of people’s development, she adds.Walker believes that such rejection of labels is likely to increase, especially as Generation Z—less than half of whom say they identify as completely heterosexual—comes of age.
And of course, the Boy Scouts have since reversed their position too.Despite the belief that casual sex in college is widespread, students are actually more talk than action when it comes to hooking up.A new study finds that college students overestimate how much other students are hooking up, or having sex outside committed relationships.These are people who may change their sexual identity with time and more experience.“Queer” is how Kate Stayman-London would identify herself now, but when she was in college in the mid-aughts, she wasn’t sure about her sexual identity.She had dated men and women, and by her senior year at Amherst in Massachusetts, she had her first girlfriend.